This has already been discussed under the section on PREPARATION (See chapter 4). Particularly the advice of Allamah Ibnul-Jauzi (Rahimahumulullah) is important in this regard.

Furthermore, Hazrat Ibnu-Abbas (Radiyallahu-Anhum) says: “I love to adorn myself for women (my wives) as much as I wish them to adorn themselves for me”. Preparation from both the partners.